for Sunday, August 28, 2022
Today's Gospel contains two teachings of similar styles. Both are about
banquets. "When you go to a banquet" and "When you give a banquet." Both have a
cautioning phrase, "Don't sit at a high place, lest you be put down," and "Don't put out
a spread for the rich to impress them, lest you already receive your reward." Both have
the teaching, "But when...".
The Lord is not playing Miss Manners. He's not giving lessons in proper
etiquette. He is teaching us the proper way to view ourselves and others. He is
teaching us about honor, respect, and, particularly, about humility.
A number of years ago there was a terrible article in T.V. Guide entitled "You
are where you sit." Part of it is as follows:
"In Hollywood you are where you sit. This is called power seating. A
strategically placed table indicates to the community your prominent and important
position in the industry. It is so important that one major studio assigns a full time PR
person to make sure the studio doesn't play second fiddle to anyone. One television
producer has his secretary call before a meal and politely note that if the table isn't in
the right place, her boss won't go. One producer put it this way, ĎInformation is power.
I don't want to be seen seated with two dentists and three veterinarians. It ruins my
image, and they have nothing to offer me.'" Obviously, humility was not that producerís
forte. His place at table had to signify his importance, his superiority over others.
The Banquet table in the first part of the Gospel is the Table of the Lord. We
are invited to the celebration of Godís Kingdom. Our joy should be that we are invited
to this meal. We cannot be concerned with comparing ourselves to the other guests.
We are told that we shouldn't think so highly of ourselves that we put ourselves over
other people. Symbolically, we shouldn't move to the best seat at the banquet thinking
that we are so much better than everyone else.
Are we better than others because we are here at Mass right now and others
are not planning on worshiping this weekend? Is that how the Lord wants us to think?
Of course not.
A number of years ago I was speaking with a young lady, in her first years of
college. She had been very involved in high school ministry and used to give some of
the best talks and the most spiritual sharing. She was holy, but, sometimes, a bit
pietistic. Whether she meant it or not, she conveyed a bit of a "better than thou"
attitude. She wanted to talk to me because she wanted to start a separate prayer
group for those, and these were her words, "who were "really up there spiritually
speaking." I left the discussion thinking, "How can she possibly think that she was
spiritually superior to someone else?" She, evidently, thought that she deserved a
higher place at the Table of the Lord. Unfortunately, she soon found herself outside of
the banquet altogether when she became infatuated and chose to become sexually
active outside of marriage.
I, and I am sure you, run into many people who assert their high spirituality,
greater than all others, save those who share their particular experiences. They are
part of a particular prayer movement or a spiritual group, or they have visited shrines,
they join a traditionalist parish and consider themselves the "faithful Catholics" as in
real Catholics opposed to the rest of us. They insinuate, or even say directly: "Iím sorry
that you havenít made this movement, joined this group or visited that shrine. You are
really missing out here." And in this way purport to be so much better than everyone
else. What they are in fact saying is, "You haven't made this movement, you haven't
visited this shrine, well, you're just not up there, spiritually." A truly holy person would
never belittle the faith-life of another person. The first dinner instruction encourages us
to recognize who we are before the Lord, not to be concerned with making believe we
are better than others.
The second part of the gospel does not speak about the Table of the Lord, but
refers to honoring people for favors to come later.
During my senior year of college I was invited to a meal that I was surprised to
find out was in my honor. It was put on by the parents of one of the Freshmen that I
was assigned to supervise by my college-seminary. This individual was not studying to
be a priest, but was living with the seminary students and was expected to follow their
routine. In turns out that his parents owned a very good restaurant in New York City.
You would not believe this meal they had ready. The table was stacked high with filet
mignons. During the meal his parents kept telling me that they were happy I was
supervising their son. They were more lavish in their praises of me than in the food
they offered me. I left feeling pretty good about myself. After all, I had to agree with
some of it.
About a week later, the young man mentioned to me that when I assign chores
for the Freshmen for the next month, he really didn't want to do anything that would
take too long or would be too difficult. I ignored this and gave him whatever job
he was in line for. His parents never spoke to me again.
I was not being honored, I was being used.
The second dinner instruction, about not looking for pay-backs, tells us to be
sincere. The Christian attitude should be to care genuinely for others, not try to buy
them. If we are concerned with whom they are, not what they can do for us, then we
are honoring the Lord who is present within them.
Put both dinner instructions together and we have, simply enough: recognize the
presence of the Lord in ourselves and in others and honor that presence. This is
Christian humility. Humility is rejoicing in whom we are and who others are before the
Lord. If we live this way then we, the humble, will be exalted by the Lord.
From the Book of the Prophet Micah, chapter 6 verse 8: He has told you, O
man, what is good; And what does the LORD require of you but to do justice, to love
kindness, And to walk humbly with your God?
Readings of the day:
First Reading: Sirach 3.17-20, 28-29
Second Reading: Hebrews 12.18-19, 22-24a
Gospel: Luke 14.1, 7-14
This material is used with permission of its author, Rev. Msgr. Joseph A. Pellegrino, Diocese of St. Petersburg, FL. Visit his
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